Building Confidence When You’re in a Slump

Hey, team, happy Sunday!

Confidence isn’t built by avoiding struggle — it’s built by how you respond to it.

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🎯 For Athletes: Confidence Is a Skill, Not a Feeling

3 Ways to Rebuild It During a Slump

  1. Shrink your focus. Win the next drill, not the next game. Stack small wins daily.

  2. Talk to yourself like a coach, not a critic. What would you say to a teammate in your shoes? Say it to yourself.

  3. Watch your body language. Shoulders up. Chin high. Eyes forward. Confidence starts with posture.

2 Quotes to Fuel You

  1. “Slumps are where champions sharpen their edge.”

  2. Serena Williams: “You have to believe in yourself when no one else does — that’s what makes you a winner.”

1 Question to Reflect On
What’s one thing I can do today that my confident self would be proud of?

👨‍👩‍👧 For Parents: Support Their Struggle, Don’t Solve It

3 Ways to Help Your Athlete Regain Confidence

  1. Validate their effort, not the result. Confidence grows when effort is acknowledged, even in failure.

  2. Avoid overreacting to poor games. Stay steady — your calm is their anchor.

  3. Encourage reflection, not rumination. Ask “What did you learn?” instead of “Why did that happen?”

2 Quotes to Anchor You

  1. “Let your kid be bad at something on the way to being great at it.”

  2. Carol Dweck: “Effort is what ignites ability and turns it into accomplishment.”

1 Question to Reflect On
Am I giving my athlete space to grow through the slump — or trying to rush their way out of it?

🧢 For Coaches: Lead with Belief

3 Ways to Build Up a Slumping Athlete

  1. Point out the habits, not just the highlights. Celebrate how they show up, not just what they produce.

  2. Pair them with a confident teammate. Confidence is contagious — put them in the right environment.

  3. Remind them of who they are when they forget. Sometimes belief comes from someone lending theirs.

2 Quotes to Coach By

  1. Nick Saban: “Mediocre people don’t like high-achievers, and high-achievers don’t like mediocre efforts.”

  2. “Coaching isn’t just correcting mistakes — it’s restoring belief.”

1 Question to Reflect On
When an athlete struggles, do I lean in or pull back?

Confidence doesn’t disappear — it just gets buried.
Dig deep. Reconnect. Keep showing up.

With you in the process,
David Lovell
Founder of the F.O.C.U.S. System | Mental Performance Coach

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